Complaint: [redacted] I am rejecting this response because: Mr [redacted] 's did not include his responses to me in fullHe has called people white trash, denies personal accounts of him not showing or being late to weddings despite having personally talked to these people and see pictures of their wedding where he is not officiating and seen conversations with him and the bride in which he sends paperwork threatening a lawsuit if they write a bad review or they get no money backThis response is not in full honesty and does not paint a full picture of what happenedFor example, my request on thumbtack did not say "I need someone cheap", I'm actually now paying someone more than I was to pay Mr [redacted] 's, and the thumbtack request was quickly taken down when I did have a family friend who said they would complete the ceremony and then backed out due to nervesThere are multiple inaccuracies and some information in his reply therefore I do not accept the responseAlso, using legal language in your response in and of itself is a threat...using your legal status as a threat I believe is agaisnt the BAR ethics rulesSincerely, [redacted] ***
Her wedding was not ruinedHer uncle, who is a pastor that officiates weddings, officiated her Christian wedding In order to save the date, I require a NONREFUNDABLE $depositIt's not a secret and all of my customers know thatMost officiants require payment in full upfrontMy deposit is nonrefundable because it saves the date for the couple - meaning I will tell other couples that I am unavailableIn reality, I can count on one hand, the number of times I have not returned a deposit when, for some reason, I don't end up officiating I don't return the deposit under the following instances: The bride or groom is abusive - calls me names (yes, this happens), is mean, or irrational The bride or groom is shady or lies I have actually, in fact, turned away another couple for the date – though I often return the deposit anyway even if I have turned another couple away In this case, I actually offered to return the deposit because I could tell things were not going to end well with this person, and they haven'tUltimately, I did not return her deposit because she was abusive, mean, threatening The bride has devoted her life to ruining my reputation and my businessShe's threatened me, she has posted on Facebook to encourage her family and friends to make fake reviews and to threaten me and my family, which they have doneIn addition to the threats, I have received vulgar emails and Facebook posts from her family and friendsShe has made multiple reviews on multiple sitesShe has contacted you, claiming that I tried to force her to sign an affidavit, which is ridiculousHer family has posted reviews saying that I decided to go to a BBQ instead of officiate her wedding Unfortunately the anonymity of the internet and the “me, me, me” and bully mentality of our culture gives people the power to hurt othersIn addition to losing sleep and causing extreme upset to my wife and family, I know I've lost thousands of dollars in business and that my reputation has suffered because of her actions and the actions of her family and friends I've officiated thousands of weddings, and I love what I doI always do the best job that I can for people, and I want people to have the best wedding possibleNot often do the happy people leave reviewsIf they did, I would literally have over 2,positive reviewsAs it is, I still have more than anyone else in Oregon and Washington, and I'm very proud of that fact The Wedding Judge The Northwest’s premier wedding officiant! e: [email protected] t: (503) 798- w: www.facebook.com/theweddingjudge
Her wedding was not ruined. Her uncle, who is a pastor that officiates weddings, officiated her Christian wedding.
In order to save the date, I require a NONREFUNDABLE $50 deposit. It's not a secret and all of my customers know that. Most officiants require payment in full upfront. My deposit is nonrefundable because it saves the date for the couple - meaning I will tell other couples that I am unavailable. In reality, I can count on one hand, the number of times I have not returned a deposit when, for some reason, I don't end up officiating.
I don't return the deposit under the following instances:
The bride or groom is abusive - calls me names (yes, this happens), is mean, or irrational.
The bride or groom is shady or lies.
I have actually, in fact, turned away another couple for the date – though I often return the deposit anyway even if I have turned another couple away.
In this case, I actually offered to return the deposit because I could tell things were not going to end well with this person, and they haven't. Ultimately, I did not return her deposit because she was abusive, mean, threatening.
The bride has devoted her life to ruining my reputation and my business. She's threatened me, she has posted on Facebook to encourage her family and friends to make fake reviews and to threaten me and my family, which they have done. In addition to the threats, I have received vulgar emails and Facebook posts from her family and friends. She has made multiple reviews on multiple sites. She has contacted you, claiming that I tried to force her to sign an affidavit, which is ridiculous. Her family has posted reviews saying that I decided to go to a BBQ instead of officiate her wedding.
Unfortunately the anonymity of the internet and the “me, me, me” and bully mentality of our culture gives people the power to hurt others. In addition to losing sleep and causing extreme upset to my wife and family, I know I've lost thousands of dollars in business and that my reputation has suffered because of her actions and the actions of her family and friends.
I've officiated thousands of weddings, and I love what I do. I always do the best job that I can for people, and I want people to have the best wedding possible. Not often do the happy people leave reviews. If they did, I would literally have over 2,000 positive reviews. As it is, I still have more than anyone else in Oregon and Washington, and I'm very proud of that fact.
The Wedding Judge
The Northwest’s premier wedding officiant!
e: [email protected]
t: (503) 798-0110
w: www.facebook.com/theweddingjudge
Complaint: [redacted]I am rejecting this response because: Mr. [redacted]'s did not include his responses to me in full. He has called people white trash, denies personal accounts of him not showing or being late to weddings despite having personally talked to these people and see pictures of their wedding where he is not officiating and seen conversations with him and the bride in which he sends paperwork threatening a lawsuit if they write a bad review or they get no money back. This response is not in full honesty and does not paint a full picture of what happened. For example, my request on thumbtack did not say "I need someone cheap", I'm actually now paying someone more than I was to pay Mr. [redacted]'s, and the thumbtack request was quickly taken down when I did have a family friend who said they would complete the ceremony and then backed out due to nerves. There are multiple inaccuracies and some false information in his reply therefore I do not accept the response. Also, using legal language in your response in and of itself is a threat...using your legal status as a threat I believe is agaisnt the BAR ethics rules. Sincerely,[redacted]
May 2, 2016: I send the bride a deposit request through Venmo that says, “NONREFUNDABLE deposit for your wedding.” (See the attached.)
October 27, 2016: The bride emails me saying, “ONE OF OUR CLOSE FRIENDS HAS GOTTEN ORDAINED TO OFFICIATE OUR WEDDING.”
Later on October 27, 2016: I email...
the bride and wish her luck with the wedding.
Later on October 27, 2016: The bride requests officiant services on Thumbtack, stating that because she's can't get her deposit back, she'll need someone cheap.
Later on October 27, 2016: The bride asks me if she can get her deposit back and starts “stalking” my Facebook and Venmo and sees a bride's post claiming I was a no-show (see Complaint ID [redacted]).
October 28, 2016: I call her on what I believe to be a LIE about her “friend officiating.” (I received the October 27 Thumbtack post and believed she was lying about the friend.) I reiterate that the deposit is nonrefundable.
In response on October 28. 2016: The bride emails me saying, “ok, then i'll keep you booked, if i'm not getting my money back.” If I'm such an awful person and in danger of being a no-show, why would she still want me to officiate at her wedding? Why, because I'm not an awful person, I'm not in danger of being a no-show, and she only cares about the money.
In response on October 28. 2016: Given her actions, I tell the bride that I will have to think about officiating her wedding.
In response on October 28. 2016: The bride emails me saying, “I will fight you on this. I will contact my bank and report the transaction, I will go to the police for any recourse, I have already contacted venmo and reported you as you are not using the service correctly. the service is for people you know not business transactions.” She makes these threats and threatens to sue me despite knowing the deposit is nonrefundable. “I will go all the way to small claims court . . . you have done no work for the $50.” “your a crook and a scam artist. and I have already started posting my reviews of you”
I didn't return this bride's deposit because she became ABUSIVE and THREATENING and I believe she lied.
This person has posted negative reviews on multiple sites, has reported me to you, and has contacted the Department of Justice despite knowing from the beginning that her deposit is NONREFUNDABLE. AGAIN, THIS IS OVER $50. Would it have been easier to give her the $50 back? YES. Do I need her $50? NO. I've decided to take a stand against self-entitled “me, me, me” people who use the anonymity of the internet to lie and bully others.
In order to save the date, I require a nonrefundable $50 deposit. Most officiants require payment in full upfront. My deposit is nonrefundable because it saves the date for you - meaning I will tell other couples that I am unavailable. In reality, I can count on one hand, the number of times I have not returned a deposit when, for some reason, I don't end up officiating.
I don't return the deposit under the following instances:
The bride or groom is abusive - calls me names, mean, or irrational.
The bride or groom is shady or lies.
I have actually, in fact, turned away another couple for the date – though I often return the deposit anyway even if I have turned another couple away.
Believe me, I don't need her $50. I officiate weddings for free when people can't afford it. If people have to change their date, I transfer the deposit to the new date, and as I noted my nonrefundable deposit is rarely nonrefundable – just don't be a dick, and you'll get it back.
I've officiated thousands of weddings, and I love what I do. I always do the best job that I can for people, and I want people to have the best wedding possible. Very rarely is someone not happy, but believe me they aren't, those are the people who make it a point to leave reviews filled with untruths and inaccuracies.
Not often do the happy people leave reviews. If they did, I would literally have over 2,000 positive reviews. As it is, I still have more than anyone else in Oregon and Washington, and I'm very proud of that fact.
164.075 Theft by extortion. (1) A person commits theft by extortion when the person compels or induces another to deliver property to the person or to a third person by instilling in the other a fear that, if the property is not so delivered, the actor or a third person will in the future:
(a) Cause physical injury to some person;
(b) Cause damage to property;
(c) Engage in other conduct constituting a crime;
(d) Accuse some person of a crime or cause criminal charges to be instituted against the person;
(e) Expose a secret or publicize an asserted fact, whether true or false, tending to subject some person to hatred, contempt or ridicule;
(f) Cause or continue a strike, boycott or other collective action injurious to some person’s business, except that such conduct is not considered extortion when the property is demanded or received for the benefit of the group in whose interest the actor purports to act;
(g) Testify or provide information or withhold testimony or information with respect to another’s legal claim or defense;
(h) Use or abuse the position as a public servant by performing some act within or related to official duties, or by failing or refusing to perform an official duty, in such manner as to affect some person adversely; or
(i) Inflict any other harm that would not benefit the actor.
(2) Theft by extortion is a Class B felony.
The Wedding Judge
The Northwest’s premier wedding officiant!
e: [email protected]
t: (503) 798-0110
w: www.facebook.com/theweddingjudge
Complaint: [redacted] I am rejecting this response because: Mr [redacted] 's did not include his responses to me in fullHe has called people white trash, denies personal accounts of him not showing or being late to weddings despite having personally talked to these people and see pictures of their wedding where he is not officiating and seen conversations with him and the bride in which he sends paperwork threatening a lawsuit if they write a bad review or they get no money backThis response is not in full honesty and does not paint a full picture of what happenedFor example, my request on thumbtack did not say "I need someone cheap", I'm actually now paying someone more than I was to pay Mr [redacted] 's, and the thumbtack request was quickly taken down when I did have a family friend who said they would complete the ceremony and then backed out due to nervesThere are multiple inaccuracies and some information in his reply therefore I do not accept the responseAlso, using legal language in your response in and of itself is a threat...using your legal status as a threat I believe is agaisnt the BAR ethics rulesSincerely, [redacted] ***
Her wedding was not ruinedHer uncle, who is a pastor that officiates weddings, officiated her Christian wedding In order to save the date, I require a NONREFUNDABLE $depositIt's not a secret and all of my customers know thatMost officiants require payment in full upfrontMy deposit is nonrefundable because it saves the date for the couple - meaning I will tell other couples that I am unavailableIn reality, I can count on one hand, the number of times I have not returned a deposit when, for some reason, I don't end up officiating I don't return the deposit under the following instances: The bride or groom is abusive - calls me names (yes, this happens), is mean, or irrational The bride or groom is shady or lies I have actually, in fact, turned away another couple for the date – though I often return the deposit anyway even if I have turned another couple away In this case, I actually offered to return the deposit because I could tell things were not going to end well with this person, and they haven'tUltimately, I did not return her deposit because she was abusive, mean, threatening The bride has devoted her life to ruining my reputation and my businessShe's threatened me, she has posted on Facebook to encourage her family and friends to make fake reviews and to threaten me and my family, which they have doneIn addition to the threats, I have received vulgar emails and Facebook posts from her family and friendsShe has made multiple reviews on multiple sitesShe has contacted you, claiming that I tried to force her to sign an affidavit, which is ridiculousHer family has posted reviews saying that I decided to go to a BBQ instead of officiate her wedding Unfortunately the anonymity of the internet and the “me, me, me” and bully mentality of our culture gives people the power to hurt othersIn addition to losing sleep and causing extreme upset to my wife and family, I know I've lost thousands of dollars in business and that my reputation has suffered because of her actions and the actions of her family and friends I've officiated thousands of weddings, and I love what I doI always do the best job that I can for people, and I want people to have the best wedding possibleNot often do the happy people leave reviewsIf they did, I would literally have over 2,positive reviewsAs it is, I still have more than anyone else in Oregon and Washington, and I'm very proud of that fact The Wedding Judge The Northwest’s premier wedding officiant! e: [email protected] t: (503) 798- w: www.facebook.com/theweddingjudge
Her wedding was not ruined. Her uncle, who is a pastor that officiates weddings, officiated her Christian wedding.
In order to save the date, I require a NONREFUNDABLE $50 deposit. It's not a secret and all of my customers know that. Most officiants require payment in full upfront. My deposit is nonrefundable because it saves the date for the couple - meaning I will tell other couples that I am unavailable. In reality, I can count on one hand, the number of times I have not returned a deposit when, for some reason, I don't end up officiating.
I don't return the deposit under the following instances:
The bride or groom is abusive - calls me names (yes, this happens), is mean, or irrational.
The bride or groom is shady or lies.
I have actually, in fact, turned away another couple for the date – though I often return the deposit anyway even if I have turned another couple away.
In this case, I actually offered to return the deposit because I could tell things were not going to end well with this person, and they haven't. Ultimately, I did not return her deposit because she was abusive, mean, threatening.
The bride has devoted her life to ruining my reputation and my business. She's threatened me, she has posted on Facebook to encourage her family and friends to make fake reviews and to threaten me and my family, which they have done. In addition to the threats, I have received vulgar emails and Facebook posts from her family and friends. She has made multiple reviews on multiple sites. She has contacted you, claiming that I tried to force her to sign an affidavit, which is ridiculous. Her family has posted reviews saying that I decided to go to a BBQ instead of officiate her wedding.
Unfortunately the anonymity of the internet and the “me, me, me” and bully mentality of our culture gives people the power to hurt others. In addition to losing sleep and causing extreme upset to my wife and family, I know I've lost thousands of dollars in business and that my reputation has suffered because of her actions and the actions of her family and friends.
I've officiated thousands of weddings, and I love what I do. I always do the best job that I can for people, and I want people to have the best wedding possible. Not often do the happy people leave reviews. If they did, I would literally have over 2,000 positive reviews. As it is, I still have more than anyone else in Oregon and Washington, and I'm very proud of that fact.
The Wedding Judge
The Northwest’s premier wedding officiant!
e: [email protected]
t: (503) 798-0110
w: www.facebook.com/theweddingjudge
Complaint: [redacted]I am rejecting this response because: Mr. [redacted]'s did not include his responses to me in full. He has called people white trash, denies personal accounts of him not showing or being late to weddings despite having personally talked to these people and see pictures of their wedding where he is not officiating and seen conversations with him and the bride in which he sends paperwork threatening a lawsuit if they write a bad review or they get no money back. This response is not in full honesty and does not paint a full picture of what happened. For example, my request on thumbtack did not say "I need someone cheap", I'm actually now paying someone more than I was to pay Mr. [redacted]'s, and the thumbtack request was quickly taken down when I did have a family friend who said they would complete the ceremony and then backed out due to nerves. There are multiple inaccuracies and some false information in his reply therefore I do not accept the response. Also, using legal language in your response in and of itself is a threat...using your legal status as a threat I believe is agaisnt the BAR ethics rules. Sincerely,[redacted]
May 2, 2016: I send the bride a deposit request through Venmo that says, “NONREFUNDABLE deposit for your wedding.” (See the attached.)
October 27, 2016: The bride emails me saying, “ONE OF OUR CLOSE FRIENDS HAS GOTTEN ORDAINED TO OFFICIATE OUR WEDDING.”
Later on October 27, 2016: I email...
the bride and wish her luck with the wedding.
Later on October 27, 2016: The bride requests officiant services on Thumbtack, stating that because she's can't get her deposit back, she'll need someone cheap.
Later on October 27, 2016: The bride asks me if she can get her deposit back and starts “stalking” my Facebook and Venmo and sees a bride's post claiming I was a no-show (see Complaint ID [redacted]).
October 28, 2016: I call her on what I believe to be a LIE about her “friend officiating.” (I received the October 27 Thumbtack post and believed she was lying about the friend.) I reiterate that the deposit is nonrefundable.
In response on October 28. 2016: The bride emails me saying, “ok, then i'll keep you booked, if i'm not getting my money back.” If I'm such an awful person and in danger of being a no-show, why would she still want me to officiate at her wedding? Why, because I'm not an awful person, I'm not in danger of being a no-show, and she only cares about the money.
In response on October 28. 2016: Given her actions, I tell the bride that I will have to think about officiating her wedding.
In response on October 28. 2016: The bride emails me saying, “I will fight you on this. I will contact my bank and report the transaction, I will go to the police for any recourse, I have already contacted venmo and reported you as you are not using the service correctly. the service is for people you know not business transactions.” She makes these threats and threatens to sue me despite knowing the deposit is nonrefundable. “I will go all the way to small claims court . . . you have done no work for the $50.” “your a crook and a scam artist. and I have already started posting my reviews of you”
I didn't return this bride's deposit because she became ABUSIVE and THREATENING and I believe she lied.
This person has posted negative reviews on multiple sites, has reported me to you, and has contacted the Department of Justice despite knowing from the beginning that her deposit is NONREFUNDABLE. AGAIN, THIS IS OVER $50. Would it have been easier to give her the $50 back? YES. Do I need her $50? NO. I've decided to take a stand against self-entitled “me, me, me” people who use the anonymity of the internet to lie and bully others.
In order to save the date, I require a nonrefundable $50 deposit. Most officiants require payment in full upfront. My deposit is nonrefundable because it saves the date for you - meaning I will tell other couples that I am unavailable. In reality, I can count on one hand, the number of times I have not returned a deposit when, for some reason, I don't end up officiating.
I don't return the deposit under the following instances:
The bride or groom is abusive - calls me names, mean, or irrational.
The bride or groom is shady or lies.
I have actually, in fact, turned away another couple for the date – though I often return the deposit anyway even if I have turned another couple away.
Believe me, I don't need her $50. I officiate weddings for free when people can't afford it. If people have to change their date, I transfer the deposit to the new date, and as I noted my nonrefundable deposit is rarely nonrefundable – just don't be a dick, and you'll get it back.
I've officiated thousands of weddings, and I love what I do. I always do the best job that I can for people, and I want people to have the best wedding possible. Very rarely is someone not happy, but believe me they aren't, those are the people who make it a point to leave reviews filled with untruths and inaccuracies.
Not often do the happy people leave reviews. If they did, I would literally have over 2,000 positive reviews. As it is, I still have more than anyone else in Oregon and Washington, and I'm very proud of that fact.
164.075 Theft by extortion. (1) A person commits theft by extortion when the person compels or induces another to deliver property to the person or to a third person by instilling in the other a fear that, if the property is not so delivered, the actor or a third person will in the future:
(a) Cause physical injury to some person;
(b) Cause damage to property;
(c) Engage in other conduct constituting a crime;
(d) Accuse some person of a crime or cause criminal charges to be instituted against the person;
(e) Expose a secret or publicize an asserted fact, whether true or false, tending to subject some person to hatred, contempt or ridicule;
(f) Cause or continue a strike, boycott or other collective action injurious to some person’s business, except that such conduct is not considered extortion when the property is demanded or received for the benefit of the group in whose interest the actor purports to act;
(g) Testify or provide information or withhold testimony or information with respect to another’s legal claim or defense;
(h) Use or abuse the position as a public servant by performing some act within or related to official duties, or by failing or refusing to perform an official duty, in such manner as to affect some person adversely; or
(i) Inflict any other harm that would not benefit the actor.
(2) Theft by extortion is a Class B felony.
The Wedding Judge
The Northwest’s premier wedding officiant!
e: [email protected]
t: (503) 798-0110
w: www.facebook.com/theweddingjudge